Temper Tantrums and How To Handle It

Temper Tantrums is quite inconvenient for parents, especially parents of preschoolers. Children can throw tantrums anywhere, they do not care where you are, either at home or in public places.

Temper tantrums in 2-3 year old

Temper tantrums is a form of emotional outbursts suddenly and uncontrollably. Temper Tantrums generally occurs in children aged 2 to 3 years (Toddlers) and will start to decline when the child at the age of 4 years. Dealing with your child throwing a tantrum is certainly not easy. Many parents are too embarrassed when a child throwing a tantrum in the street or public places.

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You as a parent should be able to cope with temper tantrums properly and wisely. If parents handle this the wrong way, then the child will use tantrums to manipulate parents and certain people.

Some examples of expressions of tantrums are as follows:

- Hitting

- Kicking

- Biting

- Screaming

- Throwing things

- Stomping

- Crying while rolling around.

What are the Causes of Temper Tantrums?

 

 • Child feels bored

• Child feels hungry

• Child feels tired and sleepy

• As a way to express anger and disappointment due to unfulfilled desires

• Tantrums usually occur in toddlers, due to the limitations of language, toddlers find it difficult to express his desire with words

• Parents tried to curb the behavior of a very active child to be polite child

• Children who are used to being pampered

• Child who have never been told what behavior is good and bad.

How to Handle Temper Tantrums in Child?

 

- Don’t give in to the desires underlying the tantrums

Parents shouldn’t give in to provide what the child wants, if tantrums caused unfulfilled desires. Reward your child what they want, Giving what your child want, it will only stop the anger at the time, but your child to repeat the same act in the future. Child will know that the desire can be fulfilled by trantrum.

Parents should try to be assertive to the child, if what the child wants is something that is not good for your child.

- Parents should keep calm

Try not to hit your child and keep calm. If you hit and also scream for revenge child cries, then there is child’s anger intensified. You should hug your child until the child feel calm and ask the child to tell you why anger with words.

If you're worried you can not deal with a child with a calm conditions should calm yourself first, for example, leave the kids for a while and come back after you have calmed down. Take a deep breath sometimes can also make you more calm.

If your child ignores your explanation that the tantrums is the wrong way to express anger, then there are times when as parents we need to tell to the children with a firm and strong voice. Hopefully the child hear and understand that bad behavior is not acceptable at all.

- Keep your child in a safe place, and keep your child from dangerous things

When a the child throwing a tantrum in a supermarket or other public places, do not leave your child alone in a crowd because you are upset with the behavior. Bring the the child out immediately and find a safe place where you can talk about bad behavior. If people around watching you, you shouldn’t have to pay attention to their eyes. They certainly understand that you are trying to discipline your child.

When a tantrum occurs at home, some parents will put their child in a special chair as a place of punishment or a place for children to reflect on behavior, with a time of one minute per age of the child. For example, 3 years old child, then the reflection time is 3 minutes. Sometimes this doesn’t work because the child will rebel, rose from the chair and ran around the rooms in the house trying to avoid punishment.

If this doesn’t work, you can ask the child to go into child’s room and shut the door until the child is calm again. If you are concerned about your child, you can accompany your child in the room. Try to ignore the whining by not making eye contact. Talk with your child when he is completely calm.

- Divert the child's attention

When you realize that the tantrum is imminent, divert the attention of the child by getting your child to one of the favorite places or make funny faces while hugging your child.

How to Prevent Temper Tantrums?

 

Then, how to prevent tantrums in child?

• You should be firm and consistent

Firm and consistent is the key to preventing tantrums in child. If done repeatedly, the child will get the message that you really cann’t tolerate bad behavior. Child must understand that the way to express his anger not by hitting, kicking, screaming and crying loudly. That is the wrong way and there are consequences. Gradually, the child will learn and understand that there is no point in doing the act because your child will not get what it wants in that way.

• Explain the rules and behaviors you expect from the child

If you want to invite children to a public place, such as a toy store then give a warning before leaving the house. Say that there is no screaming, crying, screaming and whining at the store. The child should understand that if the child throwing a tantrum in a store, then buying toys activity is canceled and your child will go straight home and no new toys for your child.

Other example, when you will be taking your child to a restaurant, say that you expect a child to be polite, spoke slowly, using words to convey his feelings and not throwing a tantrum because behavior can interfere with other people who were in the restaurant.

• Use of stroller

Take a walk with a child like shopping sometimes very tiring, especially if the the child have to walk to visit many stores to accompany you. When boredom and sleepiness coming and there was no place for children to rest, then the children will typically whining to go home and cry or commit the act because they feel exhausted. So bring a stroller for your child so that your child sits quietly accompany you shopping and rest / sleep comfortably when feeling tired. Stroller also safe enough to prevent children not to rebel and run free to do the act in a public place when the tantrum occurs.

• As a parent give a good example to children

Every human must have felt frustrated. Try to keep calm in controlling emotions and not shouting, get angry or throw things when you feel frustrated. When you do it in front of the child, then there is a possibility your child will imitate the ways of channeling your anger and disappointment.

• Talk to a good and loving to the child

Encourage children to talk openly about their feelings and keep a good relationship with the child. Talk to your child when your child has looked silent, feeling sad or disappointed disgruntled because of something. Find out the cause before it becomes anger outburst.

• Define the routine eating, playing and sleeping of the child

There are times when the child throw tantrums when hunger or sleepiness attack. Keep your Child has made a routine schedule. With regular meals, adequate hours of play, and rest / sleep enough it will prevent children from feeling tired and minimize the likelihood of tantrums.

You also must be smart to anticipate and monitor conditions that can cause tantrums in children. For example, if your child is classified as the child who are easily bored and do not linger in a new place, you should not take a child to travel in a long time. Anticipation by limiting your time traveling with the children such as a maximum of 2 hours. If too long, it is likely the child will throw tantrums in public places.

Those are some important things you need to know about temper tantrums in children. Hopefully useful.